Questions and answers

This isn't a meditation programme, and it isn't a regular coaching programme either. It brings three elements together in one: coaching, stress regulation, and learning to know and use yoga nidra and NSDR.

Coaching is the core. Not as a separate part, but woven into every conversation. What's getting in the way of relaxing? What lies underneath? What do you actually long for? Those questions guide the whole programme.

The stress regulation techniques, yoga nidra, NSDR and breathwork, are the tools through which your body and brain learn what relaxation is. Together we look at what suits you: guided sessions, simple breathing exercises, or other forms of relaxation we agree on. I like to work with the House of Deep Relax app and provide a one-year subscription, but the programme adapts to who you are.

Together, coaching and techniques make sure you don't just practise, but also understand. That is what sets this programme apart.

NSDR stands for Non-Sleep Deep Rest. It's a technique that brings body and mind into a deep state of rest without you falling asleep. The nervous system gets the chance to recover, and many people experience less tension and better recovery.

NSDR is backed by science. The term was introduced by Stanford neuroscientist Andrew Huberman, who used it to describe what has long been known as yoga nidra. NSDR is accessible to everyone: you don't need to know how to meditate, and you don't have to be able to let go of anything. You listen, and let your body do what it does.

I like to work with the tools and app developed by House of Deep Relax, an initiative of Eliane Bernhard and Dr Preschana Misri, pioneers of NSDR and yoga nidra in the Netherlands.

Yoga nidra was developed in the last century, grounded in the age-old yoga tradition. It's sometimes called "yogic sleep", but that's a little misleading: you don't sleep, you hover on the border between waking and sleeping. If you're new to it, you may well fall asleep at first. That's fine. The more you practise, the better you learn to stay in that in-between state, and that is exactly where its power lies.

In that state, the nervous system is especially receptive to rest. Tension is released without you having to actively work for it. Yoga nidra is also a powerful way to truly let go of things, not by thinking about them, but by giving body and mind the space to do it themselves.

Transformational coaching goes beyond behaviour or skills. It's about the patterns, beliefs and assumptions underneath. Why do you do what you do? What keeps it from working, even when you want it to? What do you actually long for?

That's a different kind of conversation from an advisory or problem-solving one. The coach asks questions, creates space, and waits for the moment the other person touches on what's really going on. That takes trust and time.

In every programme there comes a moment when someone runs up against what's working against them. That moment isn't a failure; it's where the real movement begins. The central question then isn't what's wrong, but what this is trying to tell you, and what you need to feel safe. Those questions open what technique alone cannot.

In this programme, coaching is woven into every conversation. Stress regulation without this layer is a technique. With it, it becomes a process of self-knowledge.

Three months isn't an arbitrary choice. New habits and patterns need time to settle, especially in everyday life: in busy weeks, on days when it doesn't work, in periods when you forget about it for a while.

Two weeks is enough to try something. Three months is enough to learn something. The difference lies in repetition, adjustment, and room to discover what works for you and what doesn't.

Three months also feels manageable. It has a beginning and an end. You know what you're starting. And at the end, you know what you're taking with you.

Because the programme is meant for people who are already busy. Travelling to an appointment takes time and energy that often isn't there. Online works just as well, and sometimes better: you're in your own surroundings, there's no need to dress up, and you can take a moment to land right after a conversation.

The check-ins are by phone because that's more accessible than a video call. You can call from the car, from a quiet corner at work, or from your kitchen table at home. No camera, no preparation, just a conversation.

You do the sessions themselves at times that work for you: early in the morning, during a break, before bed. That's part of the programme too: discovering when it fits for you, and giving it a place there.

I'm Sabine Kloos, coach and advisor. For years I held executive and board positions. For almost my entire adult career, I was running on the edge. I thought that came with the territory. Until I crashed, and accepted the invitation that came with it.

That recovery was long and not always easy. I made mistakes, I got stuck, I learned. I bring that experience into everything I do. Not as a story, but as a starting point.

I trained as a transformational coach through an ICF Level 2 accredited programme at Yinx, completed the NSDR for Professionals training at House of Deep Relax, and finished the Miracle Constellation facilitator training at Broesli with Jorien Weterings. That combination shapes how I work.

I work from the conviction that people already carry the answers within them. My role is not to tell anyone what to do, but to create space so they can arrive at insight themselves. I stand beside them and wait for the opening, the moment something is ready to be said or seen.

Alongside yoga nidra and breathwork, I also work with Miracle Constellations, a systemic method that makes visible the patterns and relationships that stay hidden in an ordinary conversation. Constellations don't work through the head, but through the body and the space.

I work from Amsterdam and Provence, and guide people online.